Ten steps to handle your anger

  • Keep cool:  a moment’s hesitation can prevent a lifetime of regret.  Give yourself time to think.
  • Be aware of your angry feelings.  Do not ignore, or deny them, for emotion influences what we perceive, think and do.  Don’t suppress it, but don’t act on it.
  • Ask yourself: ‘Why I am angry?’  This is the key.  Let life question you.  Often the issue is not   serious one and it can pass off if only you let it go!  Nurture a sense of humor.
  • Take responsibility for your anger.  Have the courage to find reasons to come out of it.
  • Talk about your emotions.  The ability to talk truthfully and fully about yourself is necessary for effective communication.


  • Talk the matter over with someone who is close to you.  Anger not expressed does not disappear.
  • Keep and ‘anger journal’.  Write down your feelings.  Don’t let them boil inside.
  • Have an outlet for your energy. Let go the things that make you feel cluttered and uncomfortable.
  • Be forgiving of yourself and others.  Remember the good old saying, “To err is human, to forgive is divine’
  • Turn anger into positive action.  There are many things you need to be angry about!  Say for example your tendency to find fault with others, to postpone doing things, to settle for mediocre results in life and so on.  Being angry with these things sets you become more creative and competitive 

Dr. N  Jayarama Shetty,  Ph.D, M.Com, MBA, MA( Psy), LL B, CAIIB, D. TD, PG. DHRM, PG. DMM, Pragya, Visiting Professor, Nitte School of Management, Bengaluru

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